Divorce can be a painful process emotionally. As a divorce attorney I find that when my clients realize that their marriage is over, they tend to focus on the downside of the divorce process. They focus their thoughts on negative issues like loss of financial security, emotional strain on their children, the stigma associated with a failed marriage, and other negative issues. However, as time passes and they get beyond the divorce process, many of these same clients begin to realize that there are some benefits to being divorced.
Picked the wrong person to marry and now have a chance to get it right
Many people when they have reached the point of divorce realize that they picked the wrong person for a mate. This realization gives them a chance to change their lives for the better and maybe even find a new partner that is a perfect fit for them.
Bad marriages are dreadful to live through and generally leave both spouses in a constant state of unhappiness. With a split up, many people find new energy and increased time to take care of their children.
Improved priorities for spending and saving
Single people, after divorce, often find that their financial life is better and easier to manage. This may be true even if they now earn less money. Being single allows them to prioritize their finances and set their own budget. This makes life easier from a financial perspective.
After marriage, people often find that they have the time and freedom to pursue their dreams and passions. In their marriage their dreams may have been in direct conflict with the desires of their spouse.
An improved financial picture
Many people find that, much to their surprise, their overall financial picture improves after the divorce. Of course this does not have to be the case, but in many cases people find that once they gain control over their finances they are better able to build wealth on their own.
Improved chances for financial aid
Children of divorcing parents often find that their chances for financial aid increase post-divorce. The Free Application for Federal Student Aid (FASFA) collects financial information from the custodial parent only. A good attorney can help their client creatively structure a divorce settlement that minimizes the income of one parent and in turn, benefit their child who is applying for college financial aid.
Increased flexibility and freedom
People getting divorced often come to the realization that they have more free time to do the things they want. When married, they only thought about the needs of their family. Now with the divorce there is increased space in their lives to pursue their interests and friendships.
It is very difficult to be happy when you are living in a bad or abusive marriage. Divorce often lifts a huge weight off people emotionally. They are free to be happy again.
In conclusion, it is important to stay positive as you navigate your way through the divorce process. We hope that you found this article to be helpful.