The Ethics of the Sages 1:18
“Rabban Shimon ben Gamliel teaches, (T)hree things ensure the world’s survival: justice, truth, and peace, as it is said, “Speak truth, establish peace, and render honest judgments in your gates.” (Zechariah 8:16).”
When couples are facing the end of their marriages, it often seems to them that their world is crumbling. Spouses know, either inherently or from friends or family, that they will need to find justice (whatever that may look like). Then the fear begins…” I need to talk to a lawyer. OMG!”
As the appointment nears, fear can give rise to anger. The thinking is that the lawyer will give you truth about justice. Here, however, is the catch; there is no single truth and the law is designed to hear multiple truths. Each person has their own story of how the marriage deteriorated. The law (justice) does not lead to justice without a reconciliation of the competing narratives. OMG! How much will this cost and how long will it take?
We don’t want to fight. We are amicable. We don’t want to hurt or disrupt the children any more than we already have. Differing perspectives, however, can create confusion. Confusion can lead to conflict. Especially when money is involved. Conflict can lead to hatred. So much for a peace and a settlement that will avoid all “the terribles” including financial ruin.
WAIT…the Collaborative Law Process is designed to confront the confusion and confound the resultant conflict before hatred rears its ugly head. Your worlds can be saved; you can dissolve instead of divorce; you can create common truths about your future and your children’s future. Be honest, speak truth, and find peace. Financial solutions can be found when new perspectives are brought into play. In Collaborative Practice, we do not judge, we lay foundations for the future; we work solutions from the bottom up, not top down. It becomes about you and your family; not about the lawyers, the law and the judge. Find out more, you owe it to your world.